Simply Felicious

Listening to: Woman Like A Man - Damien Rice

Note: Pictures to follow so skip ahead if you feel the urge to barf.

They say write what you know
I know of four years of shared laughter and sorrow
I know of broken curfews and staggered laughter
Of single tears hastily brushed off my shoulder.
I know of stolen kisses in a moving crowd
Talking ’til the sun peeks through a cloud
I know of love that walks the walk,
Across a continent, it talks the talk.

I wish I could write of the stars in the sky
But everyone says write what you know
I know of us; Of you and I
Of all of that love that continues to grow.
I write what I know, I write of you
My beloved, my dearest, my darling, my Boo =D

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Turns out the surprise party was just that - a surprise *big smiles* Despite the fact that I was convinced beyond all reason that he would find out and I would be the Party Planner Pooper… Not so my friends, not so. He walked through the door and by the way he stood there trembling, empty Sprite can in hand, I figured no one is THAT good an actor =D To quote Trevor, kewlness.

To my co-conspirators - Trev, Bry, Sash &
Gerardine…for all the lies and detective work, sly questions and
hidden footwear, thank you! =)

Barath, sorry for heartlessly and smugly saying I
had no time to take you out, I had to distract your attention away from
the Bigger Picture =)

Those in attendance included The All Blacks and The United Colours of Benneton

Mel, I’ve run out of picture quota, I’ll send you Quan’s next month =D

Thanks to everyone who came and made it wunderbar, I ate enough pizza to last me the rest of the week, stocked up on gossip and laughed just as much. Some even contracted a virus or two

Until I see you again, have a BLESSED Christmas and here’s wishing you green lights all the way home..muackkkss

Listening to: James Morrison

- A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson -

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant,
gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking
so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously
give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our own fear,
our presence automatically liberates others."

4 days to Christmas. Have a blessed one everyone.

Listening to: James Morrison - Undiscovered; "I’m not lost, not lost - just undiscovered"

                                        Do People Ever Change?
                         Musings by Felicia Paulraj inspired by severe PMS

People don’t change. A saying I believe to a certain extent may be true - but is it? Using familiar sayings like that one I have come up with the following. (Note: Readers beware.)

Maturity is a tricky thing. Growing Up is Inevitable; Growing Old is Optional, someone once said. So how come so many people can still grow older and still remain so bloody childish? Is that because People Don’t Change? So what about communities like Alcoholics Annonymous whose motto is to take things One Day at a Time? Isn’t that to change a person’s alcoholic behaviour? How is that possible if People Don’t Change?

Take the one about karma - What Goes Around Comes Around. When mean people (i.e. Meanies) treat you like shit is that because you’re only getting what you deserve? Then what about What Doesn’t Kill You Only Makes You Stronger? Could it be possible that we meet such nasty people not because of anything we have done but because we need to meet people like this in order to prepare us for worse people and to hone our public relations skills and mature our inner strength?

But hang on - how can we become Stronger after such an ordeal when People (supposedly) Don’t Change?

Am I making any sense? Is it worrisome that I make perfect sense to myself?

I don’t know if people change, be it for the better or for good. I believe in starting over and new beginnings. I believe in second chances. But I am beginning to believe that there is small minority of people who when they find themselves in familiar environments, begin to revert back to being the person they were accustomed to being in those conditions. So..is that why former alcoholics are advised to stay away from pubs/bars - environments that create opportunities to Fall Off the Wagon because People Never Change?

Bullies, gossips, kleptos - do they ever change; do they need power, gossip and matches to fuel them on?

Therefore in essence, is change non-existent, determined just by which conditions prevail?

Sigh..now I’m ranting. So what - tis my blog. Gotta go back and join the 6 way conversation on MSN where everyone is wondering who said "lipu" first..haha..such tangled webs we weave…… Xmas is in 6 days..woohoooooo

Adios. 

Listening to: Discovered - Music from James Morrison
Currently Reading: The Diary of a Young Girl - Anne Frank
Currently Eating: A chocolate covered doughnut from Baker’s Cottage (so sue me) =)

James Morrison: The British guy who sings You Give Me Something You’ll like his music if you like jazz/indie, Gavin DeGraw; music to listen to while it’s raining outside =D Pay special attention to The Pieces Don’t Fit Anymore which comes out Dec 18 in the UK. - Looks a bit like Chris Martin from Coldplay. =)

So have I TRULY no material left to write about when all I can draw from is tributes to random artists I am currently enamoured with? Apparently.

Welcome to BloggerWorld Dayana… =D

Christmas is coming and I need to find the time to put up the tree, maybe writing about it here will help speed my procastination along. Althugh I don’t think so.

So far, barring the whole impending gloom and doom of the CHICKEN POX, I have been having a lovely time. I could be on holiday for the rest of my life and I wouldn’t mind it. Call me a slob but I don’t care =D

Guys, we need to do something Saturday..who’s free? Let’s rendezvous..keke
Sorry for this entry, abominable I know…oh well =) HUGS

Listening to: Bloody Mary - The Panic Channel

Went out for steamboat with the gang on Saturday =D Barring a few soup accidents

    i.e. Gan splashed tomyam soup in Barath’s eye and only realised it was him who did it AFTER laughing  and AFTER Barath had run off to the toilet
   i.e. Bryan spilt his entire mangkuk of food on Barath’s beige khakis…

So the only food casualty of the day was Barath *pats back* there there..it’s okay - you still cute la alamak..hehe

After about 45 minutes of loudly discussing what we were gonna do after dinner, Navin solved all our problems by announcing that we’d be heading to One Utama for some bowling …

It was a night of steamboat, ChupaChups and piccies with great company and good fun, OH and a great new bag from Trev & Judith *thankies!*…we missed you there Joshua, Cheryl & Justin…

Here are some of the many various pics we took that night…enjoy — p.s. we should SO do this again =D.. muacks

Listening to: How to Save a Life - The Fray

I turned 21 on Thursday - didn’t feel very much different physically nor did I feel an abundance of overwhelming responsibilities. Since most of my friends have their birthdays waaaay before I do, by the time the end of November rolls around, it normally feels like… WEELLL IT’S ABOUT TIME SISTER HONEY BABY CHILD!

However the more I think about it, the more I’ve realised that in these 21 years I have, whether consciously or not, picked up on certain things. Sticking to the Legal 21 theme, here are 21 things I have learned over the years.

I have learned that:

1. God will always remain faithful and when you think that He has abandoned you, you will eventually find that it is you who have walked away - and that when you go back looking for Him, it is Him who finds you again (and not the other way around).
2. Some events that occur in our lives may cause us to go forever without ever knowing why they had to happen - there are no coincidences, everything happens for a reason.
3. We will meet many people over the years; we will forge lasting friendships with some, we lose touch forever with others. Good friendships, like every relationship, takes a tremendous amount of effort to maintain. Always respect the friendship that you shared and try to preserve it in any way that you can; good friendships are like wine - they taste better with age =)
4. First impressions are almost never true.
5. Never place too much importance on what other peple think of you, you only live for yourself and for God. Besides, you can never please everyone - so pick your favourites =)
6. Don’t give up on yourself; if you do, who’s left to root for you - you should be your own biggest fan.
7. When push comes to shove, sometimes, you gotta look out for Numero Uno. Everyone else is.
8. When someone hurts you, it’s always best to be honest and tell them that you do not appreciate it. It’s your right - be nice but be firm, if the person respects you, they will lay off. If they don’t give a shit even after you’ve made it clear several times that you do not appreciate it - tell them off. And take no prisoners.
9. If you want love to stay in the building, pride has to go out the window.
10. Wearing red can attract attention faster than ants to a sugar trail - just remember to shave your legs.
11. Confidence is key - love yourself. So what if the guy wouldn’t look at you, he was probably gay anyway =)
12. Have a close network of friends and never ditch them for a boyfriend/girlfriend - they are the ones who will buffer you through thick and thin, boyfriend and girlfriend.
13. NEVER speak in F language about someone else in public, there might be someone else there who understands you =)
14. Gossiping is never helpful, but it’s good therapy sometimes
15. Trust is hardest to earn, easiest to lose. Keep confidences, what goes around always comes around.
16. Everyone has a handle, find the right one and you’re set for life.
17. When we are young, black is black and white is white. The older we become, the more the lines are blurred and we begin to see shades of gray in everything. Learn to distinguish the lines and never compromise it - once we begin to compromise on our values and principles, the line will never stop moving. Tolerance is not the same as Compromise.
18. At the end of the day we are still human, we should have the courage to apologise and to forgive; to pick up our crosses and start at square one if neccesary.
19. Love, chocolate and prayers can change the world.
20. Good music is very good therapy. So is crying - there is no excuse needed in order to cry. And last but not least…
21. Take things one day at a time. You have enough strength for one day - let tomorrow take care of itself. I trust that my life is in the hands of He who is greater than me…and so I will follow Him wherever He leads me. That is a greater comfort to me than if I know that I alone am in control of my life. Trust is a must.

Thank you to everyone who have taken the time to message/call/contact and spend time with me on my birthday, you all know who you are - *many hugs* it means more to me than you will ever know. =) Thank you for the beautiful presents, both material and emotional. I am truly truly blessed to know, love and be loved by each and everyone of you.

Here’s to finally being legal. =D To more mistakes and laughter, hope and happiness, life and love.

I love you all. God bless…
Felicia

Listening to: Amie- Damien Rice  (from the album Cannonball)
Listening to Damien Rice makes me want to go twirling under a moonlit sky…

For lack of pics of my own, I grabbed this from you Melissa.. thanks again *beams* oh and click to enlarge..

Went out for the most wonderful Girls’ Day Out on Wednesday. It’s liberating to be able to lepak with accomplished, confident, beautiful and supportive women - the bond of sisterhood between women is a truly unique one and something I suggest every woman should take under consideration. When you are surrounded by a bunch of supportive females who love you for who you are, then all the negativity in the world that stem from biatches of every walk of life cannot touch you..and even if it does, this support network will cradle your fall.

Only girls know just how devious and cruel other girls can be…boys just ‘take it outside’, kick each other’s nuts (pardon my language) and then go out for a beer. Women aren’t quite so physical (catfights aren’t so intimidating and we don’t exactly have nuts either). Instead they (we?) work behind the scenes, cerebrally and emotionally, and can effectively annihilate another woman’s dignity, image and self-esteem. Now this isn’t me being anti-female or whatever; this is me being practical and speaking from experience - both from things I’ve seen and people I’ve talked to.

The only immunity from that is to ensure that you surround yourself by women that know you and love you for who you are - who will build you up when others break you down, who listen to your woes but affirm your spirits, friends who have the guts to say ‘Sayang you’re being ridiculous, that is a Human Walking Forehead!"…you get my drift?

I am not in any way saying men aren’t good friends; I have male friends who have proven to be every much as supportive as women, and having a bf that believes you are the most beautiful woman to him honestly helps

What I am saying however is that female friendship and support is equally important for a woman to fend off the ‘Miss S’s‘, ‘Ira’s’ and ‘S**ts‘ of this world. For those days when you feel fat and ugly, worthless and angry - having other girls around who can honestly look you in the eye and tell you sternly when you’re being ridiculous or lend a shoulder or listening ear - can truly help. I know what it is like to feel all those negative emotions (I am in no way as normal as some people think I am) but knowing some very crucial women along the way have helped enhance my esteem and boost my self-confidence.

For this I am extremely grateful.

Melissa, Marlene and Cheryl - I am truly grateful to have met you girls, here’s to many many many many more of these days..maybe next time Dayana can come too hehe…ooh maybe next time minus the Tripod Drama and the creepy Secret Recipe guy. Keke..

Take care chicas…and erm.. chucks? Keke